In relation to...

Well, after a long time, I have found something worthwhile to write about. The holidays are kind of an oxymoron for me right now. They are both boring and entertaining. Feel like running away to some place and enjoy. But then, even that would become boring after a couple of hours or so. Being the kind of introvert I believe I am, I've decided to be something more sociable a.k.a an ambivert. Seems like the GRE classes are finally getting on to me, seeing that I've started using complicated words while talking and my friends are finding it hard to understand :). Being an ambivert is not so difficult. You simply need to talk to people (be rather verbose!) when you feel like it. All the other times, you could switch back to the same old introvert-like behaviour! The best place to start is,  indeed, friends. I've been trying my best to do that, and have, let me be honest, had moderate success. Trying to get out of your cocoon is not so easy as it is to write about it, take my word for it.

Then after a few more tries, I took a break and started thinking about human relations. I was almost immediately wondering why every relation has to have a name. Why do we need to justify ourselves and the world about the kind of relation that prevails between two people? That was a rhetorical question, and I certainly don't expect an answer from any one. I once had a conversation with a friend which was something to this effect.

"Well, bro, I don't believe in friendship."

I was a bit surprised and I asked for an explanation. And the explanation was good (bit rich coming from me, right!)

"Simple, people tend to strike that chord and use you. I don't like being used. If I like someone, I'd rather call them my siblings than friends. The sound of friendship freaks me out."

Indeed, this kind of perspective on his part has led to a petty paradox in his social life, we all usually choose to ignore that.

Then, I realised that, I don't believe in naming relations. Seriously, how can you blanket the intricate levels of comfortability and closeness under a single common noun friend? Every relationship is unique. Period. I don't think this even needs an explanation. You can't say that an acquaintance is actually a friend. This perspective of mine leads to a complicated scenario where you find it hard to explain to people. But then, we can always live with that. Any day! And anyways, who cares what people think! :) Seriously, I feel it insulting if you call someone who's very close to you just a friend (and yes, no matter how may adjectives you add before that, it still sounds the same.) So, simple concept. Stop naming relationships between people. For all we know, they might end up completely different from your expectations. :)

Rock On!!!

P.S. : For more details about that friend of mine, contact me. :) (I'm sure he's not gonna like it!)