Then after a few more tries, I took a break and started thinking about human relations. I was almost immediately wondering why every relation has to have a name. Why do we need to justify ourselves and the world about the kind of relation that prevails between two people? That was a rhetorical question, and I certainly don't expect an answer from any one. I once had a conversation with a friend which was something to this effect.
"Well, bro, I don't believe in friendship."
I was a bit surprised and I asked for an explanation. And the explanation was good (bit rich coming from me, right!)
"Simple, people tend to strike that chord and use you. I don't like being used. If I like someone, I'd rather call them my siblings than friends. The sound of friendship freaks me out."
Indeed, this kind of perspective on his part has led to a petty paradox in his social life, we all usually choose to ignore that.
Then, I realised that, I don't believe in naming relations. Seriously, how can you blanket the intricate levels of comfortability and closeness under a single common noun friend? Every relationship is unique. Period. I don't think this even needs an explanation. You can't say that an acquaintance is actually a friend. This perspective of mine leads to a complicated scenario where you find it hard to explain to people. But then, we can always live with that. Any day! And anyways, who cares what people think! :) Seriously, I feel it insulting if you call someone who's very close to you just a friend (and yes, no matter how may adjectives you add before that, it still sounds the same.) So, simple concept. Stop naming relationships between people. For all we know, they might end up completely different from your expectations. :)
Rock On!!!
P.S. : For more details about that friend of mine, contact me. :) (I'm sure he's not gonna like it!)
i really dont see it tht way....... when u call someone a friend u actually mean it and the sanity of it depends on the way u keep up the realtion.....if someones ur friend, theres never an adjective to define him....the spark in ur eyes and the tone of ur speech when u talk abt him will define it.
ReplyDeleteWhats living when we are so mechanical, tht we define specific borders among ourselves and live like machines. The objective of calling everyone a friend is to socialize....I might have never become ur ________(whatever u feel it) untill i unless i thought u would be a good friend of mine.
Your(indeed ur frnds) ideas are highly suitable in Foreign countries where relationships are neva cared. But in a country like us where we are taught to love our fellow being...we make an intimate bond by calling them as friends or siblings.